Most of us oscillate between looking for something bigger, something more, or something relatively less. In business, relationships, sport, or art…
“I quit this job because I wasn’t developing anymore”
“I broke up with Kasia: I had the impression that we were treading water”
“I’m leaving this country because I just can’t with this government”
The need for development, the call of curiosity, the temptation to explore are natural phenomena, they push us forward, thanks to them we colonize new continents of our own personality, we traverse the white spots on the map of life. There is also the other side of the coin.
The mind, that unruly troublemaker, doesn’t like being in the here and now.
Embedding it in presence dissolves it, robs it of its strength. That’s why it will create neverending landscapes of possibilities. That there is something somewhere, a better relationship, better sex, greater opportunities, something to be explored without which you can’t live. It’s a deception. A trick. Blowing up multidimensionality with the promise of happiness sometime. The ability of discerning what is a natural need for exploration and what is a mind scream is oftentimes a crucial factor when we are facing important life choices. It’s also the ability to finally enjoy what you have, invest in something that may not be perfect but is good enough, instead of looking for a mirage around a neverending bend.
In yoga, they even have a separate name for it: viveka – discernment.
Meditation, especially on a regular basis, helps us to get in touch with the clarity of discernment.