Inevitably, many people from my closest circle are meditation specialists, psychotherapists, NVC trainers, yoga teachers… You can learn a lot from them. At the same time, there is also a certain manner of behavior in this environment, which I avoid.
Case in point, not infrequently in conversations, whether concerning “business” or completely private topics, I have the impression that I am not talking to a person, but to a representative of a given method, a given therapeutic trend. Then, filtration occurs through an intellectual concept and placement into the framework of a specific trend, with only a small dose of the human factor. The way of conducting a conversation does not mean being at a given moment in a given topic with a given person, but a learned actualization of methodological postulates about seeing the world through the prism of a given approach.
And although a certain style and “professional deviation” are natural phenomena and everyone has a right to them, losing the balance in the proportions between empathy and ordinary human contact, and adhering to a method seems to me a way leading away from man, not to man.
Personally, I avoid people who talk to me by methods.
Nancy McWilliams, a guru of psychodynamic psychotherapy, said in one of her interviews that the two most dangerous pitfalls in being a therapist are narcissism and the replacement of empathy with methodology – the inability to be with another person.
There is a reason why at Intu you will find meditation courses for certain attitudes. Because they decide: not a method (of course, we are fundamentally talking here about recognized methods, not about some useless methods).
It is important not to forget about… the human factor when using these recognized methods.